My fiancé wont show me his divorce papers

Am I being unreasonable?

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The question “will you marry me?” is a deceptive one. It’s actually a million different questions, rolled into one. Will we share bank accounts or won’t we? Should we take my last name or yours? Do we want a prenup or not? A moment of romance turns into a full evening logistics, and for good reason. Divorce is a complicated, costly, emotionally fraught process, one that’s best to avoid at all costs — not by staying in a bad marriage, but by doing what you can to ensure you don’t enter one in the first place.

With that in mind, the impulse to get the full story about your partner’s first marriage makes sense in theory, but his resistance towards showing them to you isn’t the only red flag here. I’d also question why you felt you needed to ask, and why (in this moment of should-be bliss) something in your mind snagged on a doubt.