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Is my age gap relationship a problem?

"When I say that this man is literally my dream man I just can’t resist at all."

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Age gap relationships are constantly debated on social media, but the question becomes more difficult when you end up in one yourself. One Diemer wonders if her age gap relationship is the exception. How old is too old? What are the red flags? And can a relationship be abusive, even if you think you’re having fun? (Spoiler: Yes). Here’s what fellow Diemers had to say:

Hard no

That’s a 12 year age gap. When you think of dating someone 12 years younger than you, how does that make you feel? Could you look at someone that much younger than you, and honestly see an equal partnership? Or do you see a child you’d have to raise? And is youperfect man the kind of man who feels that way about you? A 31 year old man is not interested in an 18 year old. He does not see someone that much younger than him as an equal; he sees them as a child. If he’s trying to be in a relationship with an 18 year old, he’s a predator. OR he’s WAY too immature for his age. A bad thing either way.

It’s predatory, ask him what his relationship history was like and what it was like dating someone in his age bracket. If all he can do is ignore the question, or point the finger blaming the other women (avoiding accountability), then he’s a red flag 🚩. He’s a red flag regardless and is an ephebophile (Google it) for pursuing you despite the age gap. Value your youth and focus on healing the part of you that pains you & makes you think he’s worthy of your time (he’s not and never will be)

Speaking from experience

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