My BF is mad I'm not taking birth control

Do I break up with him?

Diem co-founder Emma Bates unpacks one of last week’s most popular posts.

But first, here’s what else people are talking about on Diem:

1. neurodivergent, can't make friends

2. Boyfriend wants an open relationship and I feel awful

3. How do I explain to my mom that it's not gay for a man to want to take care of how he looks?

4. How to be happy when your birth control is making you sad all the time

5. Someone really close to me just went to jail

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Firstly, this makes me extremely angry. So I’ll start with that. You’re valid in your feelings that this is not okay.

I had a very similar experience in a previous relationship, so I can relate. I chose to come off the pill (and all birth control) when I was in my early 20s after being on it for seven to eight years because, like you, it made me feel terrible. In my case, he wasn’t overtly angry, but he would make complaints or just be generally difficult about having to use a condom. I got such an ick at his behavior that it made me start to resent him. It was one of the reasons we ultimately broke up.