My husband gives me the ick...

"I don't know that I want to go down the divorce route, but I am exhausted."

Let’s break down one of last week’s most popular posts.

But first, here’s what else people are talking about on Diem:

1. Should I be self conscious about my butthole?

2. I’ve been on birth control for years. I know it’s time to stop taking it due to negative side effects but I’m terrified to pull the plug.

3. At what point does “becoming better” just turn into shapeshifting to be liked ?

4. 18 and 31 age gap

5. What is everyone’s bravest thing they’ve done so far this year? 🦄

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We’ve all gotten the ick from time to time, but it usually happens early on in a relationship. What if the ick comes ten years later? Can it be overcome? And what if getting the ick really just means recognizing red flags? Here’s what Diemers had to say about this predicament:

This is normal

I think its normal to fall into a routine. I would start by talking with him :) not in a blaming way but an invitation to reconnect and slowly find solutions together. This distance might be a sum of monotony charged with unsaid things on both ends. 🩷

This is a red flag