The guy I’m seeing is using all my money

"I get it - he’s unemployed and looking. But when he takes cash and doesn’t give me the change ... like?"

Let’s break down one of last week’s most popular posts.

But first, here’s what else people are talking about on Diem:

1. My (32F) husband (29M) follows OnlyFans models who are all relatively young, like 19-21 year old girls.

2. Should Men Be Gynecologists?

3. Am I a red flag?

4. To Tubal Ligation or Not to...

5. Approaching Someone “Out of Your League”

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When does accepting help become taking advantage? After one Diemer shared their struggles with an unemployed partner who relies on them for money, the responses were heated. For most Diemers, there was only one clear way to solve this:

Dump him

So disrespectful. I definitely recommend ending the relationship, you deserve better and I am sure you know that too.

You’re not seeing him honey, you’re sponsoring him. That’s a parasitic relationship and you deserve better. Drop his ass and find a partner who contributes as much as you do.

That's bum behavior, hun... If he has a car and license he can door dash if he's that strapped for cash, you are not a parent, you're a partner, partnerships mean both parties put in the work. If he does not fund his roof, his gas, his food, or his drink he's not a partner, he's a dependent.

As someone who went through something very similar (it dragged on for over 5 years) LEAVE NOW!!! Even if he gets a job he’ll be the same or worse.

But others weren’t so quick to recommend jumping ship…