How do I stop competing with other women?

“I don’t shine if you don’t shine.”

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When I was around eight years old, I spent my summer at soccer camp. Before we had moved from America to England, I played goalie (as well as any eight-year-old can “play” “goalie”) for my local after-school team. In order to make this new country feel more like home, my parents quickly enrolled me in a similar program. When I arrived, however, there was one, significant difference: While my team back in the U.S. had been an all-girls team, this was the opposite. I was the only girl who had shown up. The rest of the people—the players, the coaches—were boys, as far as the eye could see.

While I’m sure I felt out of place at first, I quickly warmed to the dynamic. I was the center of nervous attention, and felt proud of their approval when they realized I was actually fun to hang out with. And then, tragedy struck: Halfway through the program, another girl showed up.