I do feel as a woman who has actively chosen to confront my jealousy when it arises, I almost feel like I'm encouraged by society to be jealous of other women. It is through wanting what other women have that most advertising has targeted women in the past, and it's through the ability to bring women down in closed or large circles that gives us the feeling we have more power than we actually do; I also feel bringing women down supports misogyny, which is why I'm so against it now. But I do feel like I am seen as less feminine for actively trying to not let my jealousy control my interactions and feelings with women. And then at the same time, I feel my jealousy is a weapon for others to isolate myself or the other woman. It's all very toxic.
Apr 5, 2023Liked by The Things We Don't Talk About
I like to live by the mantra “mudita” - taking pleasure in my friends successes even when things aren’t going well for me. It’s much more uplifting to feel positive emotions for my friends, I feel good and genuine happiness for them now instead of any feelings that are just going to bring me down. Revisiting shine theory by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow may help some here, when my friends shine, I shine ☺️ ✨ also I think the truest friends aren’t those that are there when you’re struggling but are those cheering you on when you’re winning at life! I wasn’t always this way as I instinctually felt some jealousy when things weren’t going well for me a few years ago, and I worked hard on this and now my automatic response is one of joy
I do feel as a woman who has actively chosen to confront my jealousy when it arises, I almost feel like I'm encouraged by society to be jealous of other women. It is through wanting what other women have that most advertising has targeted women in the past, and it's through the ability to bring women down in closed or large circles that gives us the feeling we have more power than we actually do; I also feel bringing women down supports misogyny, which is why I'm so against it now. But I do feel like I am seen as less feminine for actively trying to not let my jealousy control my interactions and feelings with women. And then at the same time, I feel my jealousy is a weapon for others to isolate myself or the other woman. It's all very toxic.
I like to live by the mantra “mudita” - taking pleasure in my friends successes even when things aren’t going well for me. It’s much more uplifting to feel positive emotions for my friends, I feel good and genuine happiness for them now instead of any feelings that are just going to bring me down. Revisiting shine theory by Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow may help some here, when my friends shine, I shine ☺️ ✨ also I think the truest friends aren’t those that are there when you’re struggling but are those cheering you on when you’re winning at life! I wasn’t always this way as I instinctually felt some jealousy when things weren’t going well for me a few years ago, and I worked hard on this and now my automatic response is one of joy