Here are some zI have heard that served the person well...I have decided to quit drinking alcohol because:

1. last weekend I told myself I would have one beer at the BBQ but, as you all know, instead I ran my Tesla into a parked cop car and blew 2.0. Now I have told myself, and I am telling all of you, my new limit is no beers. I just need to not drink.

2. last night I had a vision of (Isis, Freya, Mother Mary, Tara whoever might makes an impression on you) and she told me I need to never touch alcohol again or (I will never have children, I will die of cancer within a year, or whatever actually scares you the most). I know it’s super (weird, glorious, or whatever) but please respect my decision here.

3. I want to be sober. I don’t want to make a big deal about it. Help me or leave me alone.

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Oct 2Liked by Emma Bates

It will never be the same again with friends but you just have to move on for your health and sanity. But lets not kid ourselves; the party is over and life will be different; get support where you can and when you need it. Don't neglect your mental health; There is a limit to how much normal drinkers can understand, and you don't have to explain it to them; Find your own community.

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Sep 30Liked by Emma Bates

When I was approaching 40, I became aware that my instant recall of names and my extensive vocabulary, both of which had benefited me greatly in my life and career, were slipping a bit. So I tried certain supplements billed as memory enhancing (acetyl l-carnatine) and thought I could see improvement. But when I quit drinking, at about 6 months my special skills came back in full force. I was both elated by the improvement and saddened that I had not perceived the extent to which I was hobbling myself when I had believed that alcohol was a necessary and beneficial part of my social and work life.

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Dear Deimer You are welcome to use my comment about not drinking if you find it useful. I say that I’m not drinking because I have reached my lifetime quota. When I say that people chuckle and I find the humor deflects any need to say more. Good luck. So worth it.

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