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Dec 28, 2023·edited Dec 28, 2023Liked by The Things We Don't Talk About

I don’t think women lose power as they age. I have met and seen so many POWERFUL glorious successful and deeply beautiful women in their 30s and 40s+. From sexy to motherly to both. I think it’s really time to flip the cultural narrative because it’s just simply not true. I mean the amount of men that have mommy fantasies and we still are out here touting young helpless maidens (of which I’m one of lol) to be the epitome of sexual power. I mean a lot of us don’t even know what we want! We haven’t had the experience to. Women in their 30s+ is where it’s attttt

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Aug 22, 2023Liked by The Things We Don't Talk About

Why not embrace the idea that growing older is mandatory, but growing up is not? Men have managed to do this because women have accepted - unthinkingly or by coercion - the responsibilities men didn't want.

I'm not happy thinking of myself as a girl, because I spent so much of my young womanhood (in the 70s and 80s) working to get people to stop calling me that, along with "dear", "sweetie" and all the other diminishing terms women put up with. I call myself an elder, a crone or a grandmother, all terms that come from my faith (I'm a witch) and are used to refer to women who are in the wisewoman phase of their lives.

Nonetheless, I definitely have a girl's capacity for fun. Shoulda seen me in the museum gift shop buying dinosaur models for myself!

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